Okay, blog friends, I have a little weekend assignment for you:
Go check out this blog post.
Then read the linked article.
Then please come back and tell me what you think - I'm gathering quotes as I compose a (no doubt very strongly worded) "counterblog". The author of the blog I've linked here won't ever read it (he can't get past the title of my blog) but it will make me feel better to write about it. (The people in my office have already gotten an earful. Heh.)
Read on, friends! Then return and report!
(***Chelsea, you don't need to read them. Heidi, Monika, Kathy, and Mom, you already have.***)
3 comments:
Charisse,
This was my response to that blog and article hope you enjoy!
Although I am married and have been for five years I know I can't possibly relate to being single and in my 30's, but I do wish to put in my two cents. I do believe that most women should be careful not to become too picky with their choice of a spouse, and I do think that we can get too caught up in the whole romance thing sometimes, but I truly don't believe that we should "settle" with no romance just to have a spouse. Although I do believe that any two people striving to live gospel standards can have a sucessful marriage, but that would be all there is to it if you "settled", "a successful marriage". Drawing from my own experience being married, romance does play a big part of my own marriage and I feel is necessary for a successful and HAPPY marriage. I believe it is also essential to have similar intrests and things you enjoy together. My husband and I both have college degrees and I find that it was essential for me to have someone in my life who is just as, if not more educated than myself. If not I would be a very bored, frustrated person. I have a few friends who are in their 30's and still single. I don't believe for one minute they should settle, just because they are single and not married yet at their age. I truly believe what it comes down to is continuing to have faith in the Lord that your life will be in line according to His will. When we are striving to live the Gospel to it's fullest we will be the most happy with or without a spouse. I also truly believe that if we are doing those things I stated above and striving to live according to His will, then we will find and marry in the Lords timing for us. For most it's this life and for some it will be the next. I do leave my advise though to those who are single: continue to strive to have balance. That's what it's all about finding balance in all things. You can have what you are looking for just don't be too extreme and always include the Lord in your choices! I promise it works!!
From over here it seems that someone is unhappy with the decisions he has made in his life, and therefore thinks he is qualified to tell other people what decisions THEY should make. Should someone wanting to be happy and successfull let herself be affected at all by "advice" from someone who is unhappy and unsuccessful?
I realize that I just earned a low score on this homework assignment ...
My Two Cents (and I'll try to keep this short):
Anybody who suggests "settling" in order to get married is the correct path is an idiot--to put it mildly. I take offense to the suggestion that I HAVE to get married in order to have some use to the world, or to really find some fulfillment in life. Don't get me wrong--I certainly want to get married and have a family. And I'm certainly doing all I can to achieve those goals. But I am a 25-year old woman with focus and motivation to my life. I've graduated from college and I have a car, a career, a 401K. I desire a relationship putting me on equal ground with a man--I want to walk NEXT to my husband, not before or behind him. That doesn't mean I refuse to date men who don't have a career, a house, a full-paid for car and a Master's Degree. It means I look for a man who has focus and motivation in his life. I don't care if he's only a sophomore in college and I'll have to support him through the next 5 years of school--as long as he has a goal and focus to his life. THAT is my requirement at this point. And yes, I have requirements. I've seen too many friends get married just to get married and keep up with the other girls they graduated with. Those marriages might last but they certainly require more work then another partnership might have. Some people might think I look at marriage with a cold, almost-scientific view, but I disagree. I think I look at marriage realistically. I hope and pray it still comes in to my life, but if it doesn't, I'm still going to live each day with the goal to be happy. And most importantly, be true to MYSELF.
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